Why?…a Black Woman’s Question About White Men…supposedly Left Behind As Well.?
Posted by: in women hair lossWhy most people (not all) look at relationships between black men and white women as a loss for black women and not a loss for white males as well? Why is it that these same individuals are not making rude remarks towards white males, such as: “Why are white women leaving their men behind for black men? Why are white men so jealous of black men dating white women? I hear white men just cannot keep their women satisfied that is why they are leaving them. White men are so jealous of black men because they have sexy bodies, because they are well endowed, and because they have so much charm. Why do white men have a nasty look on their face when they see me with my black boyfriend in public? White men are so plain looking, lame, and wish they were hot like black men, that is why they imitate them so much.” (Please understand (white men) before you respond) These are not facts (I have not had a conversation with any, or all white men), I am only putting a twist on the questions, or comments that people often ask/remark about black females. I ask you, how would feel being placed in a situation for which you really are not losing any sleep over. Well this is how it feels and why it angers some black women. It is not what is happening (interracially), but the way individuals assume you are responding without knowing the facts. So to anyone who is so keen on making these assumptions about black women please rethink it. We are not all jealous and do not assume because we appear angry when you walk in with you new man that it is you/he that has put that reaction on our face. Life happens to us all and it may have nothing to do with who is with whom. We are not all jealous of you hair, if I am correct you are not the only race of women with long flowing hair, Spanish, Chinese, etc all have hair like that. I am just saying why the bashing of the sistas and not white men because I know they are not all happy with so many of their women abandoning ship. This is just my observation. One more point, the countless women on this site making nasty remarks and comments are usually the ones who are really just looking for some validation and merit to boost their low self esteem because anyone in a loving relationship would not have time to worry about what black women feel or why the react a certain way. If you notice the sneer and jeers, so much that tells me you spend too much time looking at them as well. No, I am not “the pot calling the kettle black,” but I am a black woman who feels it is time to stick up for my sistas; we are being berated at an alarming rate.
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September 23rd, 2009 at 11:26 pm
i like you. what i mean is that this is an interesting question to me. i’m a 23 year old white guy and i’ve been with a very gorgeous black girl for about 6 years. you’ve opened my eyes to the other side of the situation. i always get made fun of and yelled at by black guys for being with a pretty black woman and i’ve always had a big issue with it. i’ve always gotten the reaction you get only it’s the other way as in “you stole our woman” like you said about white guys. i guess i come from a different area or have surrounded myself with different people who just don’t look at things that way. my best friends are all white and they love my girlfriend, there are no issues. and i’ve also never heard of any white guys being upset with black men for dating white women. in fact in my area, not to be insulting in any way, in always see black men with white women that aren’t attractive at all. in that respect i could see why you may be bothered. but then again would you want to date a man of any race who has low standards. thanks for a good question.
September 23rd, 2009 at 11:28 pm
you shouldnt have said all that. prepare for a flame. i got cha back… psyche…
September 24th, 2009 at 1:40 am
umm in my mind most black girls are hotter and are better in bed
September 24th, 2009 at 6:19 am
ok, from my standpoint, the white girls they are takeing they can have… I’ll take a fine blakc woman anyday.
September 24th, 2009 at 8:19 am
Holy crap…you wrote a friggin’ book. You have GOT to learn to summarize or least make paragraphs. Well, I got a little tired of reading it ……but I’m a black woman I’ve only dated white men. I’m dating a damn fine and sexy white man right now. I could give a crap what other people have to say, and everyone has something to say. Screw ‘em.
September 24th, 2009 at 10:30 am
Obviously, you don’t really like the person you’re with because if you did then it wouldn’t matter what others said.
September 24th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
to long to read try on a rainy day
September 24th, 2009 at 6:37 pm
Where do you live that white women are all abandoning my “ship”? I don’t know a single white girl who dates a black man. Furthermore, I think you’re missing the point. White men only get upset when a HOT white girl is out with a black man… slightly more upset than when a HOT white girl is out with another white man… If it’s a 350lb white girl I don’t see anyone in my camp upset about it – or any camp for that matter. And if you’re 350lb black girl and upset about not getting any that’s your fault.
I have never heard anyone make fun of a black woman because there are white women dating black men. I think you need to move to a different town. I can suggest every place I have ever lived as locations where you don’t have to worry about this.
September 25th, 2009 at 1:26 am
Holy crap that was a long winded speech. Why do you care? Not trying to be rude, because I know the comments can get to ya, but if you’re with the one you love, it shouldn’t matter. Idk, guess it’s, because personally idc who dates who, regardless of race.
September 25th, 2009 at 7:32 am
If I had this mush to say, I’d see a counselor first !!!
September 25th, 2009 at 8:43 am
TMI.Read my profile info
September 25th, 2009 at 9:30 am
i think that you are holding a grudge about something. im black and married to a white woman. i don’t give two shits about someone looking at us. this is not about race. it about love. no one and i mean no one can tell me who to be with and who to love. those people with the weird looks are really ignorant. i know you have heard that before. but its true. enjoy you relationship. i guarantee that you feel like a queen with him. you should because that is how i treat my wife
September 25th, 2009 at 10:21 am
d a m n this is too long to even read!
September 25th, 2009 at 11:30 am
dang girl, you really venting there…I think I follow you so let me take a stab at it; basically you think it’s unfair to black women being abandoned by black men and white men losing white women to black guys right? Let me just say that I believe that interracial dating is finally starting to become common and somewhat accepted by society and as far as I’m concerning, I think it’s great and fair to everyone. It’s a person’s choice to who they want to date and if they choose to go with somebody of a different race you should be happy for them, not judgemental or discriminate against them. As for the white men, I’m sure they’re coming to the terms of understanding how times are changing…and if a guy or girl prefers another race over their own, it’s their prerogative. I assume you, it’s nobody’s lose, if white men want to date a white female or vice versa, they’ll find somebody or fight for a girl they care about.
I for you am definitely for interracial dating. I’ve dated white guys before and it’s a great experience that I don’t regret; don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against dating black guys but it’s my decision and choice…I just tend to more attracted to white guys, no offense to either race or gender. Overall, I think that nobody is at a loss with interracial dating, if anything it’s a great experience and breach in a bias barrier that’s been up for centuries…
September 25th, 2009 at 2:55 pm
Really, what does it matter?
September 25th, 2009 at 7:29 pm
its people like you that fuel racism , why can’t you except that your in love with another person and leave all the general ideas behind be happy with who you are and who your with don’t worry about what others think unless you think its true
September 25th, 2009 at 8:01 pm
Sweety, you practically wrote an entire novel…..
i only read up to the fith line.
September 26th, 2009 at 1:03 am
I have dated outside my race and enjoy women of color and don’t worry about what other people say or do it doesn’t matter they will never change what’s in your heart. Good Luck.
September 26th, 2009 at 1:22 am
white men are lame