I Know I Have Issues And Need Help. Pls Give Me Some Advise?
Posted by: in women hair lossI am 21 years old and am a sophomore at college and a fitness coach so I am pretty much standing on my own 2 feet(thank god). anyway I was always bullied by kids when I was at primary and secondary school for being chubby and I wasn’t very popular with the girls. Now I am somewhat of an person who women like to flirt with which is nice but my problem is I do not think I look enough to be in a relationship. I do not know why but I am trying to be as perfect as I can but never manage to. Every time I am attracted to a woman I start to workout intensely to have even a more appealing body but every time I say now I can talk to her I see her with someone else… Now my hair started falling off and I do not know what to do. I know the problem isn’t my hair loss or my looks. I know I cannot be a perfect man but why do I feel so inferior? do I have a inferiority complex? and if yes what can I do?
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September 26th, 2009 at 10:47 am
anyway as we know – hair loss can be caused by many different reasons! Find out the actual cause of hair loss! There are many causes of loss of hair such as stress, poor nutrition ,medications, thyroid dysfunctions, illness, fungal infections ,hormonal problems, to mention a few.
year ago my husband suffered from hair loss too and he started trying everything you can imagine to stop his hair loss. the things that really worked for him was:
1) Vitamin A – an anti-oxidant which promotes healthy production of sebum in the scalp;
2) Vitamin E stimulates circulation. Good blood circulation in the scalp is important in keeping hair follicles productive. The ‘B’ vitamins contribute to melanin, which gives hair its healthy color and also stimulates blood circulation;
3) massage is also beneficial. Massage stimulates circulation. As already noted, good circulation in the scalp keeps hair follicles active. Experts suggest a few minutes of daily head massage by hand. Circulation through massage may be improved by using a few drops of lavender or bay essential oil in an almond or sesame oil base with massage;
4) Try rubbing your scalp with garlic juice, Onion Juice or Ginger Juice(you can either of one out of three, Do not mix any of two or three);
5) also he used herbal treatment – TrichoZed
It is a good product that helps prevent hair loss and it is an FDA approved product. I think it is very important!
It worked and still works for him!
I do not know if any pharmacies carry TrichoZed but I do know that you should purchase it directly from the manufacturer and read more about the product here http://www.trichozed.info/why.php
It enhances hair growth by blocking DHT (Dihydrotestostrone) – a major cause of hair loss!
good luck!
not only my and my husband`s own personal experiencehttp://www.trichozed.info
September 26th, 2009 at 3:47 pm
Having self-confidence is hard for some people. You should see a shrink that may help you get over the trauma you have from the time you were in school.
The hair falling will stop if you stop stressing out. My hair started falling because i was really stressed out with problems in my social life.
September 26th, 2009 at 5:42 pm
meditation always helps
September 26th, 2009 at 8:33 pm
Hi there,
If your problem is your hair loss then try http://EliminateBaldingFast.com.
But if its more to your relationship, then things that i can suggest is be sincere and listen to them. Try to be a one woman man and try not to bug her around. They like romance but still they need their own time and space as well. Relationship is like you fly a kite, sometimes you let loose and sometimes you pull it in order to control it, but never let it go or it will fly away.
September 27th, 2009 at 12:00 am
My opinion:
Two things:
1) Lack of confidence.
2) Not being happy with who you are.
You can look mediocre, even less, but if you have confidence, you can overcome that deficiency, and other things as well.
Also….you have gotten yourself into a mindset of ‘neediness’. No no no no no. You have to learn to be happy with YOU…and…..be independent. Almost indifferent. You should find your own thing. Your own activities and interests and so on.
So….who cares if this girls calls you!? Forget it…..just go out and do your own thing and let her hang. Let HER sit and worry for a while and let HER make a few calls to see how YOU are doing….and if she doesn’t…..oh well. What’s the lost? You’ve lost nothing.
You have to re-train yourself now…..re-invent yourself, as people love to say. Maybe things won’t work out with this girl…….so what. If you’re happy with your life and who you are then whether you have someone or not….you’re HAPPY! And that is the liberating thing. You are able to get into a relationship and flourish with the right person….and….you are able to drop the bad apples and to have it devastate you because you are alone. And you are no longer prisoner to the ‘need’ to be in a relationship and you also aren’t prisoner to people who don’t return your calls or treat you with simple common decency.
Good luck to you!
September 27th, 2009 at 2:23 am
I think you have insecurity and a self-loathing of your appearance. It could be caused from high anxiety about your looks and thinking your not good enough do to your low self-esteem. I think it was from those kids teasing and bullying you. Tell somebody something enough from a lot of people and it can make you believe it. Even the most confident people it can happen too. Just try and encourage yourself every day and strive to do things that build confidence like if you have a fear of doing something like asking out a girl do it. What is the worst that could happen she says no? Also it is very hard but don’t let yourself listen to degrading comments everyone sees people different and finds different things attractive. Really look at what is good about you and try and be a good person. Get a therapist or a counselor to talk to if you like. They help out a lot
Good luck.
September 27th, 2009 at 2:42 am
You are plagued by self doubt.
Everything we do is consistent with our self-image. What we think of ourself dictates our behavior, thoughts, beliefs, and feelings. The distinction between those with a positive self-image and those with a negative self-image is that the former do not associate poor performance with being a bad person.
while on a conscious level you recognize that you can’t be good at everything, you expand a specific deficiency to envelop your entire self image. At some point in your development, you lacked a positive source from which to draw.
At one time or another we ALL doubt ourselves, our abilities, our intentions, our goals. The main question is whether we let these passing doubts continue on their way or whether we grab hold of them and let them take root. Everybody has strengths and everyone has weaknesses.
Tomorrow, write down everything you do well. When you arrive at work on time, acknowledge your reliability and punctuality. When you make someone else smile or laugh, silently applaud your sense of humor. When you solve a problem, or simply enjoy your work, write it down. For every accomplishment during the day, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, make a mental and written note to yourself.
Once a week for the next month make a new list. At the end of the month, review your four lists, you’ll notice some recurring areas where you have obvious talents and skills.
Acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. Accept them. If you allow yourself to get emotional about them and dwell on them you will not be motivated to change them. The feelings are to debilitating.
September 27th, 2009 at 5:38 am
ok so i can some what relate to what you are saying i have similar problem and have recently went to a counselor it has actually helped like i would freak out if i didn’t hear from by hubby when he was out with his buddies r things like that even if it was just cuz i was home alone and didn’t have n e one to talk to i would like get really worried thinking people were like mad at me and that’s why they weren’t calling to hang out and stuff so found out i have anxiety really bad like i get panic attacks sometimes and stuff like that i think you should seek help from a counselor or a doctor it will help i mean i hope it does it did for me and i feel so much better i go to the counselor like once a week and i take no medication sometimes it just helps to talk to someone from the outside looking in kida deal you know good luck and try not to let your mind run away
September 27th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
Don’t try so hard. The stress is what’s causing your hair to fall out, and if you have a girlfriend you shouldn’t worry about the other girls unless you break up. She might just not be home. And as far as losing her due to not being good enough… if she picked you, you’re obviously good enough for her. I have no idea if you have an inferiority complex, but if you do, you should work on not trying so hard, and not worrying about what other people think. I know when I stopped worrying about what other people thought I felt a lot better about myself.