Comments on: I Know I Have Issues And Need Help. Pls Give Me Some Advise?

By: Skylar Potter Rocks!

Skylar Potter Rocks! — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 12:06:05 +0000

Don’t try so hard. The stress is what’s causing your hair to fall out, and if you have a girlfriend you shouldn’t worry about the other girls unless you break up. She might just not be home. And as far as losing her due to not being good enough… if she picked you, you’re obviously good enough for her. I have no idea if you have an inferiority complex, but if you do, you should work on not trying so hard, and not worrying about what other people think. I know when I stopped worrying about what other people thought I felt a lot better about myself.

By: Angela

Angela — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 05:38:25 +0000

ok so i can some what relate to what you are saying i have similar problem and have recently went to a counselor it has actually helped like i would freak out if i didn’t hear from by hubby when he was out with his buddies r things like that even if it was just cuz i was home alone and didn’t have n e one to talk to i would like get really worried thinking people were like mad at me and that’s why they weren’t calling to hang out and stuff so found out i have anxiety really bad like i get panic attacks sometimes and stuff like that i think you should seek help from a counselor or a doctor it will help i mean i hope it does it did for me and i feel so much better i go to the counselor like once a week and i take no medication sometimes it just helps to talk to someone from the outside looking in kida deal you know good luck and try not to let your mind run away

By: fj9

fj9 — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:42:11 +0000

You are plagued by self doubt.
Everything we do is consistent with our self-image. What we think of ourself dictates our behavior, thoughts, beliefs, and feelings. The distinction between those with a positive self-image and those with a negative self-image is that the former do not associate poor performance with being a bad person.
while on a conscious level you recognize that you can’t be good at everything, you expand a specific deficiency to envelop your entire self image. At some point in your development, you lacked a positive source from which to draw.
At one time or another we ALL doubt ourselves, our abilities, our intentions, our goals. The main question is whether we let these passing doubts continue on their way or whether we grab hold of them and let them take root. Everybody has strengths and everyone has weaknesses.
Tomorrow, write down everything you do well. When you arrive at work on time, acknowledge your reliability and punctuality. When you make someone else smile or laugh, silently applaud your sense of humor. When you solve a problem, or simply enjoy your work, write it down. For every accomplishment during the day, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, make a mental and written note to yourself.
Once a week for the next month make a new list. At the end of the month, review your four lists, you’ll notice some recurring areas where you have obvious talents and skills.
Acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. Accept them. If you allow yourself to get emotional about them and dwell on them you will not be motivated to change them. The feelings are to debilitating.

By: wy

wy — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:23:14 +0000

I think you have insecurity and a self-loathing of your appearance. It could be caused from high anxiety about your looks and thinking your not good enough do to your low self-esteem. I think it was from those kids teasing and bullying you. Tell somebody something enough from a lot of people and it can make you believe it. Even the most confident people it can happen too. Just try and encourage yourself every day and strive to do things that build confidence like if you have a fear of doing something like asking out a girl do it. What is the worst that could happen she says no? Also it is very hard but don’t let yourself listen to degrading comments everyone sees people different and finds different things attractive. Really look at what is good about you and try and be a good person. Get a therapist or a counselor to talk to if you like. They help out a lot Good luck.

By: fizixx

fizixx — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 00:00:46 +0000

My opinion:
Two things:
1) Lack of confidence.
2) Not being happy with who you are.
You can look mediocre, even less, but if you have confidence, you can overcome that deficiency, and other things as well.
Also….you have gotten yourself into a mindset of ‘neediness’. No no no no no. You have to learn to be happy with YOU…and…..be independent. Almost indifferent. You should find your own thing. Your own activities and interests and so on.
So….who cares if this girls calls you!? Forget it…..just go out and do your own thing and let her hang. Let HER sit and worry for a while and let HER make a few calls to see how YOU are doing….and if she doesn’t…..oh well. What’s the lost? You’ve lost nothing.
You have to re-train yourself now…..re-invent yourself, as people love to say. Maybe things won’t work out with this girl…….so what. If you’re happy with your life and who you are then whether you have someone or not….you’re HAPPY! And that is the liberating thing. You are able to get into a relationship and flourish with the right person….and….you are able to drop the bad apples and to have it devastate you because you are alone. And you are no longer prisoner to the ‘need’ to be in a relationship and you also aren’t prisoner to people who don’t return your calls or treat you with simple common decency.
Good luck to you!