know that sounds a bit dramatic but within the last two months my health has rapidly deteriorated. I was taking a hormonal drug for hair loss and came off in late December noticing dramatic side effects. Since then my skin has aged, I have chronic fatigue and panic attacks and worst of all I appear to be permanently impotent, or at least for a very long time going by others’ experience. I am 32 and it has come at a bad time as I had just started seeing a lovely woman, my personality has also changed somewhat as I get depression and anxiety and generally feel lifeless.
I read stories of other men and feel quite desperate as there seem to be few recoveries after several years. I don’t have many friends or family and have been off work a month. I stay in a bedsit. I’ve lost interest in music and sport and current afairs, things which used to get me going. I’m just in a panic thinking about the future. I’m my mum’s only child and now seem destined not to have a kid. The drug messes around with your hormones and makes you emotional, ages your body and causes great distress.
Does anyone have any good advice?
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September 30th, 2009 at 4:01 am
It sounds like you’re in a depression and should see someone ASAP to be able to talk about your experiences, I would understand if you’re hesitant to use any other medications, but you might want to see if there is any thing else that you can take that might change things. But first you might want to talk to someone who can help you. Talk therapy can help a lot.
September 30th, 2009 at 10:40 am
I would recommend going to the library and reading a book about suicide but the librarian might say **** off you won’t bring it back! lol
No seriously speak to your doctor about the drugs and effects do your own research on impotence and ask others if you are really down don’t let any potential embarrassment stop you! perhaps you should forget about sex and do more exercises eat well experiment with diets etc.
September 30th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
it sounds as if your going through a depression.
I am aswell, but we will get throigh it. I have been through a lot. And it sounds as if you have aswell.
Even though you may not feel like it, go for a walk with the woman you are seeing or do some excersise or just get some fresh air.
It helps me when i feel down.
And i am sure it will help you.
=]
Con
September 30th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
first ignore dog c he’s a moron. you are depressed and need to see a doctor right away. i had depression myself a while ago and getting help was the best thing i did. you are the same age as one of my sons and i think with medical help and your new lady there is light at the end of the tunnel. you are not alone.i agree with the reply that said you should get washed and dressed and go out every day for a walk or to the park it will help.
October 1st, 2009 at 1:37 am
hey i would suggest, going to the ocean, teh ocean always heals a broken heart, go swimming. talk to this nice lady and if your that worried about kids, ADOPT p;lenty of kids need to be saved. and if your serious, seek help. do not sit there and make your self worse. and if you r hormones are messed up fine, theyll get better efventually just stay hope ful /. GOOD Luckkkk sincerely
October 1st, 2009 at 5:29 am
It is important that you speak to your doctor and share what you have here. Your doctor will be the best resource and place to start in addition to what you’ve just done here. I read of a man who has a lot to offer.
Good luck .. keep your chin up.
October 1st, 2009 at 9:32 am
First off, stop the treatment.
Having hair is not worth all that.
Now…
Go get a shower.
Put some clean clothes on.
Go for a walk or a drive.
Go someplace that will occupy your mind.
October 1st, 2009 at 4:10 pm
speak to ur doctor asap..
October 1st, 2009 at 4:49 pm
All we can do, is hope to drift forwards.
Empty or not
For an empty glass is always cleaned and refilled in the end
Never say there’s nothing worth living for.
Don’t expect the beauty to come to you.
Go into the world. Search the very veils of the sky
Look under rocks are through the ocean.
But never stop searching.
Cause there’s always another sun rise.
No matter how dark the sky
Even if it means searching forever.
Wishing upon fading stars
Just wish harder.
For when our eyes close forever in the dreamless sleep, there is no sun rise anymore.
Whats life without a little light?
Be happy.
Love life.
October 1st, 2009 at 10:36 pm
You have an illness called clinical depression, you need to visit your doctor, this illness can be treated there are many anti depressants available it is sometimes trial and error untill you hit on the one that suits, but you will, don’t worry too much about hairloss it happens to the best of us and a lot of ladies think it’s quite sexy, there is a lady out there for you, you will find her, things will get better, you only live once please wait till you see the light at the end of the tunnel, soeak to some one, visit your doctor and don’t give up please
October 2nd, 2009 at 12:13 am
Well I’m the same age. I’ve been under therapy and using meds for 13 years now. For depression and panic attacks.
No, you don’t have to suffer this long.
What you are experiencing is normal. Yet must feel incredibly ovewhelming.
I’m sure you are very dissatisfied with, and expect a lot from yourself. Constantly questioning.
Well I don’t know if this is good advice since if I knew there was a ’single key’ solution to this problem I wouldn’t be suffering it.
However my two cents on this is that, just like when we are sick, we shouldn’t try to stick to life as much.
If you have fever, you stay in bed. And if you have anxiety disorder and depression, it might be a good idea not to dive into thoughts much.
Through the years I never gave up or gave in. It’s been a long hard struggle. But it changed for the last couple of years.
Therapy helped a lot, my thoughts became less obsessive. My approach became smoother.
I ’slowed down’ and I can now see how automated responses happen (logical, emotional and physical)
By slowing down, I do not mean pushing your urges down. But accepting them as they are and lowering the tempo (yes it’s easier said than done)
Your resources are now diminished, but your demand is high. Lower the demand a little bit and work your way up.
Cheers
October 2nd, 2009 at 4:50 am
Stay calm, or try to, and think of yourself aside from all the superficial, status and wealth obsessed society, as a link in the human race-you need some good warm contact with some decent people who can help you, and you can, in turn help them. But that aside, go to see family doctor and make a longer appointment so you can have time to discuss, you need support and comfort, and to kick start your self confidence. But seeing a medical professional will help you make good decisions for future-i go through those emotions, or lack of them almost daily and have done for almost two decades, and i know how painful it can be, and the loss of self worth, write it all down, find some new interests and cheerful cultural interests to occupy your mind. I know what it is like-it is heartbreaking and you need help to get out of this. Everyone is the same, it’s a bad time, but might improve in the long term. Thinking of you, take care and be courageous.
October 2nd, 2009 at 6:41 am
Hi honey,
Hair loss ain’t that bad, I found my husband alluring when he shaved off his hair, I think its great now that he is losing his hair big time (he is 33). Please don’t take these drugs for a kind of vanity. Your new lady doesn’t look and say I wish you were someone else I’m sure.
I know about depression and panic attacks and acknowledging them is a very big step to getting better. You will recover but it takes time and work, it is a road of ups and downs and you must have help, so speak to someone (anyone)(doctor, nurse, counsellor). If they suggest anti depressants take them and change them if they don’t help. They will help until one day (maybe a few years later yu won’t need them) but if you do need them forever (so what I take thyroxine for life).
Impotence can be addressed by doctors and counsellors, what I know though is that stress and depression and worry isn’t helpful. I am sure your lady if she is right will stand by you. Children ??? adopt, foster. I’m sure you will love them the same as would your mum.
So tomorrow start afresh and everyday start afresh. Everyday get up and do something, anything even if you don’t want to. Just do it, its great and the rainbows and the rain and life will slowly get brighter.
“Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible and suddenly your doing the impossible”
Sorry I waffle. xxx
October 2nd, 2009 at 9:00 am
okay this what you do first stop taking those hair loss pills lol and second go outside or better yet go to a starbucks lol and talk to random strangers like just go up to them and start asking weird questions and see their reactions you’ll laugh and be like ohhh i was just kidding and start a conversation i don’t know thats my suggestion to be random like that =) cheer up it’s not the end of the world lol =)